Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Lord Allah has given some of them dignities upon others and because of what they are spending from their wealth. Then the honorable women are devotees and guarding chastity in the absence of their men with what Allah has guarded. And in the case of women on whose part you fear disloyalty, then you admonish them, avoid them in the bed, and you even beat them. Then if they obey you, you don’t seek any way against them. Indeed, Allah is the Highest, Great.
The physical structure of men is different from that of women. Men can travel lonely wherever and whenever they desire. In the case of women, it is unsafe to travel lonely at night as well as to distant places even in the daytime. Men should spend for women. Lord has taught through Messenger that if the youths have no means to give dowry, food, and clothing for women, they have to control their sexual thirst by fasting. Therefore, helping women for the sake of marriage is illegal, whereas helping men for giving dowry and for meeting other expenses is legal in Islam. It is told in verse 43: 18that Lord doesn’t want any woman brought up with ornaments and unable to submit arguments.
Three stages should be practiced before divorcing a woman: (1) Advise her for fulfilling the aim of life. (2) Spend forty days in the same bed without having sexual contact. (3) Beat her praying with hearts to convert her behavior to good. If she obeys, the husband shouldn’t show any supremacy or anger upon her. Both of them should always remember that Supreme Lord is watching everything and should have to answer before Him on the Day of Judgment about this temporary worldly life. It is told in verses 84: 7-9: “Whoever is given his Recording Book in the right hand, he will be reckoned an easier Reckoning, and he will turn to his family rejoicing”. To get the Recording Book in the right hand, he and his family should live in this fourth phase with more than fifty percent under the Light of Adhikr.
Even though Lord’s Book instructs that the three steps mentioned above should be followed before divorcing a wife, divorce is happening without any control among the Arabic Quran reading Fujjar who are reading these verses than any other people. Since Adhikr is codified as a Book today, the believer has to mold his individual, family, and social life under the Light of Adhikr. He should follow a mode of prayer and lifestyle explained in verses 7: 205-206. The believers are commanded through verse 66: 6 to keep away themselves and their families from the Fire. Whoever doesn't do so, is making him and his family into severe loss on the Day of Judgment as told in verses 39: 15 and 42: 45. See the explanation See explanation 2: 187, 222; 4: 15-16, and 27.